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The phrase “boys’ club” typically evokes visuals of back-room decision making amongst whiskey-drinking gentlemen in smoked-filled offices. The premise makes for a great Netflix series, but does absolutely nothing positive for professional women. This visual probably takes you back to the 1970s. Unfortunately, what we think is a scene from Mad Men is actually still a 2018 reality in many industries.    

I’m a “feeler” by nature - it’s simply how I’m wired. If you’re feeling blue, I’ll feel it right with you. If you need someone to spread your enthusiasm to a room, I can make it happen. I’ll be your biggest cheerleader and commiserate over trials right along with you. Give me a compliment, you’ve made my whole day. Look at me sideways, “WHY DO YOU HATE ME?” I kid, mostly. Throughout the years, this little personality trait has come in quite handy in my personal life, but can oftentimes make navigating the working world feel like wading through landmines.    

The word “selfish” comes with negative connotations, especially for women. When we think of selfish people, we think of unlikeable people. We teach our children from a young age to share—don’t be selfish! Fast forward years down the road, and we’ve become professional women who give so much of ourselves within our workplace, and elsewhere we’ve forgotten a little bit of selfishness can be a good thing.